During the course of our lives we have relationships and disappointment then without any warning when we aren't really looking someone comes along that truly adores us. There are no games, no pretenses just pure adoration and love for who we are.. And in return a side of us feelings that we thought we no longer possible are awakened. I have been fortunate enough to find a second chance at love., I believe I have found my soul mate. A love that is kind and gentle, a man who worries about how I am feeling , if I'm comfortable, to hot or to cold someone who dotes on me and thinks about me every minute of the day.

For whatever reason many of us go for the cool , bad boy who looks good plays the game but has no ability to care about anyone but perhaps themselves. I am here to tell you if and when a wonderful, kind , nice guy walks into your life go with him. You will always be happy, they will make you feel happy and safe there will be no games just pure love and adoration..

The bad boy will challenge you, he knows all the games and plays them well. But in the end do you want a person who plays well or one that doesn't need to play games. I will tell you from life's experiences I not only want but need someone who truly is there for me, someone who cares enough about me on a really hot day to turn the air conditioning on in the car ahead of time so I will be comfortable. Someone who knows me so well and cares so much that when I say I'm fine they know better and want to be sure I am really fine.

It took years of searching and a wonderful man came into my life I have been truly blessed.

The life-changing magic of tidying up: How this 1 tip changed everything

May. 15, 2015 at 10:21 AM

Meena Hart Duerson

TODAY

I can't remember when I first heard someone gushing over Marie Kondo's "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up," but all of a sudden this spring, it seemed like everyone I knew — or sat next to on the subway — was reading this mysterious Japanese organization manual.

"You have to see my closet," a friend confided one night, taking me by the hand to show off her suddenly spare shelves. "I Kondo-ed everything."

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So I decided to find out: How could this pocket-sized book, which has already sold over 2 million copies and sits firmly atop the New York Times Best Seller list, make such a big promise?

Here's the short answer: Because it's legit.

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It all comes down to one over-arching question: Does your stuff make you happy — or in Kondo's words, spark joy? "If it does, keep it," she writes. "If not, dispose of it."

While it sounds too simple to be helpful and too crazy to be useful (how can you expect everythingyour house to bring you joy?), Kondo's method really can change your life — if you let it.

First things first, she says it's critical that you clean by category, not by location — don't just tidy up your closet, gather all the clothes from every corner of your house and "place every item of clothing in the house on the floor." I've never thought of myself as a person who has a lot of clothes (I wear the same outfit every single Saturday) but when confronted with my staggering pile, I was shocked. When had I accumulated so much stuff?

Next comes the purge: Kondo calls for you to pick up each item and ask yourself if it sparks joy. This takes forever and requires snack breaks, but you can't get impatient because if done correctly, it's incredibly liberating. The joy I felt when I picked up my favorite jeans became a barometer. Suddenly, I wanted everything in my closet to make me feel like that.

The best part about Kondo's book is her advice on how to deal with the hardest items to get rid of: those things that make you feel guilty. That dress I bought five years ago and wore just once, because it makes me feel dumpy? It's survived many a purge because I can still remember how much it cost, and it's in perfect condition — even though I know I'll never wear it.

"If you're having a hard time getting rid of something, thank the item for the role it has already played in your life," Kondo advises, recommending you say something to the garment like "Thank you for giving me joy when I bought you" or "Thank you for teaching me what doesn't suit me." Then you're free to "let it go."

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It felt ridiculous, but I held the dress in my hand and thanked it. It was true, it had brought me joy at one point, and by now it had served its purpose. I was ready to move on. As I tucked it into a bag marked "donate," I felt a wave of relief.

"I think tidying up can be life changing," Dr. Drew Ramsey, an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at Columbia University, told me when I asked if Kondo was on to something. "You have to start with something small, so tackling that closet often gives people the boost."

Letting go turns out to be quite addictive. I quickly filled three huge bags to donate and applied the same tactic to my books, kitchenware and miscellaneous papers, feeling lighter and freer with every purge.

"When people are organized and tidy, they feel morepowerful," Ramsey says. "If you build that into your life, that helps you in everything."

Of course, part of the buzz Kondo's book has generated is because of her charming and slightly insane-sounding tips, like her theory that we transmit energy to our clothes when we fold them and that socks need to be stored unfolded so they can relax. "They take a brutal beating in their daily work, trapped between your foot and your shoe," she writes. "The time they spend in your drawer is their only chance to rest."

But her method is worth trying, for the attitude shift and peace of mind it can bring you. Once you organize your life around what brings you joy and feel comfortable letting the rest go, you can shed clutter in all areas.

"It's not just about tidying up to get rid of things," Ramsey says. "It's about having gratitude for the objects you choose to be in your life."

So if something (or someone) doesn't bring you joy, don't try to justify its place in your world. Just say thank you and move on.

Try these at home: Marie Kondo's 9 tips for tidying up

1. Sort by category, not location: Don't do the bedrooms first, then the living room, then the rest of the house. Do all your clothes, then all your books, etc.

2. Tidy in one go. Don't draw it out. If you tidy a bit each day, you'll find that you're tidying forever. Do it all at once and you'll have the system in place to stay tidy.

3. Pick up each item one at a time and ask yourself, "Does it spark joy?"

4. Fold your clothes so that they stand up vertically. This way, you can put all your t-shirts (or other items) in a drawer and see every item at once, rather than digging through piles of fabric to find the shirt you want.

5. Don't repurpose clothes to loungewear. Don't justify keeping a torn, ratty T-shirt just because you think you can repurpose it as a pajama top.

6. Recycle your papers. For important legal documents, scan them! Everything else you should get rid of.

7. Don't keep gifts out of guilt. After the joy of the gift-giving moment is through, you can donate the gift without guilt. It has served its purpose.

8. Storage experts are hoarders. A "clever" storage solution never really solves anything. A new box or organizer won't make you tidy. Pursue ultimate simplicity.

9. Start with what you know will be easy to get rid of. If you start with mementos or items you attach a functional value, it will be harder to know if they spark joy. Start with items that are easier to make decisions about, and then you will be in the right mindset to tackle mementos later.

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